The Regulated Self™
Nervous System Reset Coaching
Your body isn't overreacting - it's overprotecting.
When you’ve lived through stress, trauma, or relational harm, your nervous system adapts to survive. You may find yourself constantly anxious, numb, on edge, disconnected, or exhausted - not because you’re broken, but because your body has been trying to keep you safe.
Nervous System Reset is a 8-week trauma-informed somatic coaching program designed to help you reconnect with your body, understand your stress responses, and gently build your capacity to feel safe, grounded, and in control.
A Clear Path to Healing
This program is built to meet you where you are, whether you're just starting to explore your attachment style or you're ready to do deeper work around nervous system regulation, boundaries, and emotional repair.
We offer Individual coaching options to support different learning styles, budgets, and healing needs.
Hi, I'm Shikha
And I’ll be your facilitator and coach as you move toward secure attachment. In addition to my work as a coach, I’m also a psychotherapist in Ontario, CA specializing in somatic therapy, narcissistic abuse recovery, attachment wounds and repair, and couples counselling.
For many years, I showed up in relationships with anxious attachment. I was labeled “needy” or “too much,” felt guilty for setting boundaries, and found myself drawn to people who couldn’t meet me. Through years of training in attachment, trauma, and nervous system regulation, I’ve come to understand that attachment wounds aren’t fixed, they’re adaptive, and they can heal.
We can’t control how others show up. But we can learn to relate from a place of self-trust, emotional safety, and grounded connection, and that’s what this work is all about. This work won’t be a walk in the park, but it’s worth it!
Why Nervous System Regulation Matters?
Nervous system regulation is essential because it forms the foundation of how we feel, think, connect, and respond to life. When your nervous system is dysregulated, stuck in fight, flight, freeze, or fawn, it becomes hard to feel safe, make clear decisions, or maintain healthy relationships.Your nervous system is the command center of your emotional, physical, and relational life. It constantly scans your environment for safety or threat and responds automatically, even before you’re consciously aware of it. When your nervous system is balanced and regulated, you feel grounded, present, and capable of responding to life with clarity and calm. But when it’s dysregulated, which is common after trauma, chronic stress, or unstable relationships, it can leave you feeling anxious, shut down, overwhelmed, or emotionally reactive.
Here’s why learning to regulate your nervous system is life-changing:
Mental & Emotional Health
A regulated nervous system improves your ability to manage anxiety, depression, and emotional highs and lows. Instead of reacting impulsively or shutting down, you begin to notice what’s happening in your body and respond with intention. It supports clearer thinking, better sleep, and greater emotional awareness.
Stronger Relationships
When your body feels safe, you can show up more fully in your relationships. You’re better able to set boundaries without fear, stay connected during conflict, and express your needs without guilt or collapse. Regulation helps repair attachment wounds and supports healthier relational dynamics.
Trauma Healing
Talk therapy is valuable, but trauma lives in the body. If your nervous system still perceives danger, even in safe situations, healing can feel stuck. Somatic and nervous system work helps your body learn that it’s safe now, allowing deeper emotional healing to take root.
Physical Well-being
Chronic dysregulation can contribute to fatigue, inflammation, tension, digestive issues, and immune dysfunction. Regulation brings the body out of survival mode, supporting better overall health and energy.
Breaking Old Patterns
Unhealed stress responses often keep us repeating patterns, staying in toxic relationships, people-pleasing, or avoiding conflict. Nervous system regulation creates space to pause, reflect, and choose differently, not just react.
Who This Program Is For:
You feel anxious, hypervigilant, or emotionally reactive even when you “should” feel calm
You often disconnect or shut down in response to conflict, overwhelm, or stress
You’ve experienced narcissistic abuse, emotional neglect, or chronic relational stress
You struggle with setting or holding boundaries without guilt or panic
You’re working on healing attachment wounds and want more body-based tools
You want to feel safe in your body, not just think about healing
You're ready to move from understanding your trauma to actually feeling different
By the End of the Program, You Will…
Understand your nervous system and why your body responds the way it does without shame or self-blame.
Build a personalized toolkit of somatic regulation practices to calm, ground, and center yourself in real time.
Feel more confident setting boundaries and responding to stress without spiraling or shutting down.
Reconnect with your body as a safe place, rather than a source of overwhelm or disconnection.
Strengthen your relationship with your voice and truth, even in moments of fear or conflict.
Move through life with greater resilience, clarity, and emotional flexibility.
Create a lasting nervous system support plan that helps you stay regulated and grounded beyond the program.
"I never realized how disconnected I was from my body until I started this work. For the first time, I feel like I have tools that actually help , not just ideas or affirmations."
– J.R., Nervous System Reset Client
"I took the 12 week extended program and it was well-worth it. I liked how we used this extra sessions to fine tune things. Even after the first week, I started noticing changes in myself.
– S.S., Nervous System Reset Client
Individual Coaching
Our private coaching programs offer personalized, trauma-informed guidance designed around your unique needs and goals. Through one-on-one support, psychoeducation, and practical strategies, you’ll gain clarity, rebuild confidence, and develop the tools to navigate your healing journey with greater awareness and empowerment.
Packages:
8 Weeks (can be extended to 12 weeks)
60 minutes sessions
Weekly somatic practices + reflection prompts
Personalized Nervous System Support Plan
Private online space (e.g. Email list and private forum) for questions and community connection between sessions
Optional: A discounted 1:1 extended session, past 12 weeks.
This is what becomes possible when healing meets attachment repair:
Emotional Freedom
Let go of patterns like people-pleasing, numbness, or abandonment anxiety.Relational Security
Form healthier, more grounded connections—without fear or codependence.Somatic Self-Regulation
Get to know your nervous system. Learn how to soothe it, rather than react.Inner Reconnection
Heal your inner child, rebuild trust in yourself, and reclaim your voice.
What You Will Learn Each Week in Private Coaching
8 to 12-Week Individual Coaching Program
Focus: Building awareness, self-regulation, and relational repair in a shared healing space
Ideal for: Clients looking for support, education, and guided transformation in a group setting
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Learn:
Polyvagal theory in simple terms (fight, flight, freeze, fawn)
How trauma and chronic stress rewire your system
The connection between body memory and emotional reactions
Do:
Map your nervous system story
Start tracking body cues of safety vs. threat
Establish a simple daily check-in ritual
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Learn:
The roles of hypervigilance, shutdown, and appeasing in your life
How your nervous system responds to stress, conflict, and connection
The difference between reaction and regulation
Do:
Identify your dominant nervous system state
Build awareness of early warning signs of dysregulation
Start practicing pause-and-notice techniques
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Learn:
Why “just breathe” doesn’t always help — and what to do instead
Regulation through movement, sensory grounding, and co-regulation
Nervous system matching (how to meet yourself where you are)
Do:
Try 3 somatic regulation tools tailored to your system
Build your personalized “Regulation Menu”
Explore real-time self-regulation in daily moments
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Learn:
Why boundaries can feel unsafe — and how to change that
How to recognize and respond to relational triggers
The nervous system's response to rejection, criticism, and abandonment
Do:
Practice body-led “no” and “yes”
Map your most common relational triggers
Work on safe boundary-setting scripts
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Learn:
How unmet needs from childhood live in your body
The role of protective parts and why they resist change
The power of reparenting through nervous system work
Do:
Guided somatic inner child check-in
Rehearse self-validation and emotional repair
Practice offering internal safety in response to old wounds
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Learn:
How trauma can shape your identity, voice, and expression
The link between body suppression and people-pleasing
Somatic empowerment and reclaiming your truth
Do:
Embodiment practice for reclaiming your voice
Explore how you’ve abandoned your truth to feel safe
Practice safe self-expression in real or imagined scenarios
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Learn:
What real nervous system resilience looks like (it’s not perfection!)
How to bounce back from stress and trigger loops
Creating rituals of self-trust and regulation
Do:
Reflect on past moments of resilience
Build your own “resilience anchor toolkit”
Set up supportive habits that reinforce safety
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Learn:
How to continue this work beyond the 8 weeks
Recognizing progress and anchoring new patterns
Creating sustainable nervous system support for long-term growth
Do:
Final reflection and growth inventory
Create your Personal Nervous System Support Plan
Celebrate and integrate your progress with intention
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This is an 8-week program with the option to extend up to 12 weeks based on your individual needs. Extensions are recommended when additional time and support are needed to further explore specific areas, deepen healing, and continue your progress.
Reset your nervous system
Book a Discovery Call with Shikha, a somatic experiencing coach
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Not at all. The program is beginner-friendly. You’ll be guided step-by-step and encouraged to move at a pace that feels comfortable and safe.
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Yes, many people find that somatic coaching complements therapy beautifully. If you’re currently in therapy, you can discuss this program with your therapist to ensure it aligns with your goals.
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Perhaps. And maybe not everyone will and that’s okay. While emotional releases can happen, the goal isn’t to force or chase a big breakthrough. The focus is on gentle, sustainable regulation and helping your body feel safe enough to release tension naturally over time. The idea is to let your body guide you.
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While every person’s journey is unique, many participants report feeling calmer, more grounded, less reactive, and more connected to themselves and others. Effectiveness is also dependent on how often you are putting the skills into practice.